Anxiety and School Avoidance

Anxiety is a natural human response to stress or uncertainty. Most children feel it at times, but when anxious thoughts, feelings or physical signs become frequent, intense or start to disrupt everyday life, extra support can help.

As parents, it can be difficult to see your child struggling. The information on this page is designed to help you recognise what anxiety can look like in children and teens, understand when it may be more than everyday worry, and learn practical, evidence‑based strategies you can use at home, alongside guidance on when to seek further support.

You’ll find short videos from leading professionals and a carefully selected set of additional resources to explore at your own pace. Our aim is to offer calm, clear information that strengthens family relationships, promotes hope, and supports each child’s wellbeing and dignity.

If you have concerns about your child, please contact your school. We are here to partner with you in care and support.

Short videos to support your understanding

Catholic Schools Maitland‑Newcastle has created a series of short videos in collaboration with leading Australian parenting experts on anxiety and school avoidance. These videos provide parents and carers with practical insights and simple, easy‑to‑use strategies designed to support their child’s wellbeing.

Rethinking anxiety: Why changing the way we see anxiety changes everything

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The story matters: changing the story, change the response

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Two questions to unlock your child’s brave

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So, what is anxiety really?

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Feeling anxious, doing brave: what helps, what backfires, and what quietly makes it worse

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When your child’s anxiety triggers yours: build their brave without pushing or panic

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The hardest 30 minutes: getting out of bed, the car, or the house

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Separation anxiety: from anxious to brave

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Your belief leads their brave: why you have to go first

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The most powerful way to calm anxiety: why it might not be working (and the game‑changer)

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Everyday foundations: lifestyle factors that buffer anxiety

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Extra support: how to know when your child or teen needs it

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Want to know more? Explore our recommended resources below

Fear-Less Triple P Online  – Tripple P

This free, online program gives parents practical tools to understand anxiety and support their child through everyday challenges.

Fear-Less Triple P Online | Triple P

Cool Kids Program – Macquarie University

This evidence-based program teaches children skills to manage anxiety through structured lessons and practical exercises. Parents receive straightforward guidance on how to support their child’s progress at home. It’s a reliable option if you’re looking for a clear, step-by-step approach.

Cool Kids programs | Lifespan Health and Wellbeing centre | Macquarie University

Self-Help Program – BRAVE

BRAVE is a free, online, self-paced program for children, teenagers, and parents wanting to learn effective anxiety-management skills. It breaks information into manageable modules with interactive tools to help build confidence. Families like it because it’s easy to follow and grounded in proven strategies.

BRAVE Self-Help Program

 

 

Kids Helpline

Kids Helpline website has a page dedicated to Anxiety in Kids and Teens, which explains what anxiety can look like in children and provides practical advice for both parents and their children. You’ll find clear signs to look for, useful tips and guidance on when extra support might be needed. It’s a straightforward place to learn more and explore next steps and also includes contact information for children to be able to speak to trained professionals.

Kids Helpline

Beyond Blue

Beyond Blue offers simple explanations of anxiety, common symptoms, and practical ways parents can support their child. The site also outlines when to seek further help and what options are available. It’s a dependable starting point if you want clear, factual information.

beyondblue.org.au

ReachOut

ReachOut provides easy-to-read information tailored to parents of teens experiencing anxiety. It includes practical strategies, conversation tips, and examples of what anxiety can look like during adolescence. It’s designed to help you feel prepared and informed.

reachout.com

 

Ten Things I Wish You Knew About Your Child’s Mental Health

Dr Bill Garvey

This book gives parents clear insights into how children experience emotions and mental health challenges. It provides practical explanations and strategies that help you support your child with confidence.

Penguin Books Australia

Overcoming School Refusal

Joanne Garfi

This guide explains the causes of school refusal and offers structured steps to help children return to school. It includes practical strategies, real-world examples, and clear guidance for families. It’s especially helpful if you’re unsure where to start.

Overcoming School Refusal

Anxious Kids: How Children Can Turn Their Anxiety into Resilience

Michael Grose & Dr Jodi Richardson

This book outlines what anxiety looks like in children and offers evidence‑based strategies to build resilience. It provides straightforward advice for parents and practical tools you can use at home. It’s designed to help families feel informed and supported.

Penguin Books Australia

 

Understanding your child’s experience of anxiety

Emerging Minds

This podcast episode breaks down how children experience anxiety and what parents can do to support them. It includes expert explanations and practical tips you can apply straight away. It’s a clear, accessible option if you prefer learning through audio.

Emerging Minds  

The Anxiety of School Avoidance

Sheilah Gauch

This article explains why some children avoid school and outlines the role anxiety can play. It provides practical suggestions for parents and guidance on how to respond calmly and consistently. It’s a helpful read if you’re navigating school-related challenges.

The Anxiety of School Avoidance | Psychology Today

Anxiety: the stepladder approach for children and teenagers

Raising Children Network

This article explains a practical, step‑by‑step method to help children and teenagers gradually face situations that make them anxious. It outlines how to start with the least challenging tasks and build up, giving parents a clear structure they can use at home. The resource also includes examples across different ages, helping families understand exactly how to apply this approach in real life.

Stepladder approach: child & teen anxiety | Raising Children Network

School refusal: children and teenagers

Raising Children Network

This article describes what school refusal looks like, why it happens, and the signs parents might notice at home. It breaks down the common causes – such as anxiety, learning challenges, or social worries – and offers clear guidance on how to work with the school and support your child’s return. The information helps parents understand the behaviour and take confident, practical steps forward.

School refusal: children & teenagers | Raising Children Network